9/11/12

Let's Clear Things Up

Regarding my last post:

I think all children are a blessing from the Lord, even boys and even boys that are hyperactive. My point was that I have a super easy girl right now and sometimes I feel like that is all I can handle. Some of the biggest blessings in my life are when God gives me the exact opposite of what I think I want. That's kind of what I meant about Him being a prankster. My most favorite person in my life is a boy and I am glad he was born, so I could marry him.

I am so sorry if it seemed like I would be ungrateful to have boys. I would be so grateful, just scared! And I don't want to be insensitive to parents that have kids with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder. I feel like any parent would say they wouldn't want their kids to struggle with that.

Sometimes I am flippant and silly with my words and I am truly sorry if it hurt any of you. And God knows my heart and He knows that I want what He wants. Even if it's 10 boys. Also, God gives us the desires of our heart according to His will. Right now I desire to be a mom to just Katie, and that' s OK, because right now that's God's will.

I have heard TONS of moms say that they are so glad they don't have a girl or don't want a girl, because of the drama and the teenage years. I say, "BRING IT". I love teen aged girls and I am so excited for that stage. God made us different with different desires. We need passionate boy moms and passionate girl moms and moms who are blessed with both.

My intentions were not to disrespect or insult anyone. Those are NEVER my intentions.
I regret that I did both of those things.
I'm sorry.




33 comments:

Nicole said...

Knowing you, the Anonymous comment to which you are referring is eating you alive. One only needs to know your loving and joyful heart to know that you didn't mean ANYTHING serious or disrespectful in your post. It's commenters like that (and always Anonymous, btw), that make us question what we write in our posts and lose our authenticity because of it. You keep on being you. We love you!
Nicole

sweethome4us said...

I have a boy and a girl ... and my dear sweet son has about done me in ;) Love him more that you can imagine, but he sure keeps me on my toes! Love your sense of humor and appreciate your blog!

Mackenzie Turrill said...

Girl! You have MADE IT in the blog world if you're getting all misunderstood and people are being critical of you in their comments! You're big time now ;) We all know exactly what you mean! Don't worry for another second! xo!

Staci said...

Don't let the anonymous comments bug you. We know you weren't trying to insult or make fun of anyone. I certainly didn't read it that way. Katie is lucky to have such an attentive, fun and grateful momma!

d said...

I am a mom of 3 boys and 1 girl-I completely understood what you were saying. Maybe the anonymous person was having a bad day-we all have them. Don't feel bad!

King Amy said...

Your history of sarcasm should be enough to convince anyone that you weren't being hurtful!

Glad you blog and share pictures of Katie's baby cheeks (face not rear!)

Erin K said...

Wow!They couldn't sense your joking, sarcastic tone? Whatever issue they have isn't you, it's about them. Obviously this person has issues.

colleen said...

Girl you shouldn't have to have written this post!!! If "anonymous" didn't get your joking then they are not a true reader of your blog!!! As a girl with no babies who has been trying for 7 years, my husband and I joke about God really knowing what he is doing because I truly don't know if I could be the best mom ever but God knows.... and I will know all in His timing... I think most of your readers fully understood your post and the ones that didn't need to remember were blessed to live in AMERICA were we have freedom of speech and fireworks!!!!!

Anonymous said...

You don't have to apologize. I've never posted before, but I enjoy reading your blog (I found you on Kelly's Korner). I think you're just so funny and sweet and it's CLEAR that you love Katie and children in general.

Anyone who's read more than 1 or 2 posts of yours should be able to pick up that you love life and enjoy being silly. I laughed when I read your post yesterday, I have 2 boys and 2 girls, and it's WILD here at our house! I knew where you were coming from, and I think if anybody got offended maybe they were just having a bad day.

God bless you!

charlotte hobbs said...

Dina - I love reading your blog! You are to witty and shoot straight from the hip. I am a mother to 3 kids, 1 boy and 2 girls.Like you, I got rid of all of my baby things and 6 yrs later had baby number 3!But hey, I totally got some cooler baby things! It will be ok. My first girl does have ADHD but your post certainly did not offend me in any way. If the anonymous reader cant figure out how you joke around about things maybe they hare struggling with some issues.

Anonymous said...

I guess I have to be anonymous because I don't have a blog? But I'm not the anonymous who wrote that to you yesterday! And I'm not about to hide behind anon...my name is Cheryl! I LOVE your blog, I LOVE your sense of humor and although I have never posted before, I just needed to today to let you know that I'm pretty sure 99.9% of us knew exactly what you meant! For Pete's sake, if we can't joke about motherhood and God's sense of humor, we all are in trouble! I agree that maybe that person was just having a bad day. 9/11 puts me in a bad mood too. (although I'm convinced that most people who choose to post things like that are only doing so to stir the pot!) So please accept my virtual hug...and PLEASE keep on just being you!

Frugal Jen said...

Don't let that person get you to doubt what you said. I understood what you meant and laughed! You have an incrediable positive attitue on your blog and in real life.

Keep on going girl!

Anonymous said...

Love your sweet blog and wanted to "anonymously" lend my support. I don't know you personally, but have read your blog long enough to know that you were joking and that you are not a mean spirited person. And personally, I believe God has a sense of humor - perhaps that Anonymous commenter should get one of those, a sense of humor that is. God Bless!

The Brewers said...

As the mother of a severely disabled special needs child (my daughter has Angelman Syndrome- part of which is ADHD), some people are just WWWWAAAAYYYYYYY too sensitive! For the anonymous commenter: please learn to take things in the spirit with which they were said, not with the words. Life will be SO much better for you- trust me!!!

Miss G said...

Sweet Dina! Hang in there and as David is fond of saying to me these days "Be Happy!!" (I'm starting to get a complex that he thinks I'm not happy which I am, he just keeps saying it to me! Funny boy!) Sorry you had to write a "disclaimer" but so glad that you blog! Kelly

Anonymous said...

Hey Dina.
Don't feel offended by the 'anonymous' comment. It says anonymous for a reason. you won't miss her (or him) reading your blog. I was laughing out loud when I read your blog about the twin-boys with ADHD! Hilarious! I love your sense of humour, so keep up the good work and don't feel miserable about one comment!
Corine from Canada

Anonymous said...

Please... no need to apologize. It was very clear how you meant that comment - humorously! Some people just look for reasons to be offended - good grief.

I just love your blog. I found it thru KellysKorner and I just adore how you write, your sense of humor, your artistic flair... and you sure have a darn cute daughter. I'm hoping you do have another child - the world could use another doll such as Katie.

Have a great day!
Though this will post as anonymous, my name is Linda, visiting your blog from Tampa.

Kara said...

Really...wow...did not even occur to me that someone would be offended by that! Sorry!

Sara Beth said...

Dina,

You are so sweet! Anyone who reads your posts would know that! I enjoy your blog so much! AND... I have THREE boys and it is a little scary at times!

Kirstin said...

Anyone that reads your blog knows that you are the best mommy out there to your sweet lady and would be to ANY OTHER children you might be blessed with!! I have often joked about it being the opposite for myself BUT my little handful is what made me a mommy!!

Jennifer said...

Anon obviously doesnt read your blog on a daily basis. I LOVE the way you write, your pictures, and I think you are so funny! I think we would be great friends in real life. :)

Amanda said...

You sure do have some awesome readers!

Since I know you in real life, and you were my best friend in junior high AND my college roommate, I can honestly tell people that you really are mean...Just KIDDING!

When I got rid of all my baby stuff, everyone told me I'd get preggers right away too.

I think YOU will!

LOL! :)

Anonymous said...

Hey Dina,

I've read your blog for several years, but, this is the first time commenting! I LOVE your blog! I love your charisma and passion for God! I especially love your humor! Keep it up, girl! I've come to your blog so many times and left refreshed and uplifted! Your transparency is refreshing!

In His grip,
Sarah

Cory said...

Aww! I am sad that you felt the need to explain your last post. My goodness, your little girl is still LITTLE, enjoy that. And you are more than entitled to have one child or many. I think that you are so funny on here, and am pretty sure that most of us "got" what you were saying.

Titus 2 Women said...

Wow, Dina look at all the love!!! Maybe I should say something controversial on my blog :) Girl, I love your sense of humor and never want you to change!!!

Stephanie

♥Kristie Lynn♥ said...

I have been enjoying your blog for a while know, and I agree with the others, that you have nothing to apologize for!! And I say that as a mom of 5: two girls (YES they do bring drama but that is ok) and three boys, ONE who has autism!! I didn't even pause when I read your last post to wonder if it was insensitive, because it really wasn't!! I always joke and say that God gave me my first 4 kids within 5 years of eachother, because He was preparing me for the stress of the ONE autistic child He was going to bless me with a few years later!! :) I now have a job with our local school district, working with special needs kids, and I love it!! But there were days in the early years of my son's diagnosis when I would get really overwhelmed. I would pray of course, but sometimes I used to sing, to the tune of the old Mickey Mouse Club, A-U-T-I-S-M S-U-C-K-S!! None of us want our children to face challenges, but gee whiz, when they do, you have to be able to face it with a sense of humor. Anyways, from a real life special needs mom, don't feel that you were insensitive. We love our special needs kids more than life itself, but we can still laugh about our struggles, in fact, we need to. :)

Schluter said...

I certainly didn't take it that way! But you know those crazies out here on the internet! haha Keep posting whatever you want!

Anonymous said...

Just a quick note to say that your blog always brings a smile to my face whenever it pops up on my feed. More than any other blog I read, you never boast or belittle. The other person probably just was feeling sad or didn't read your tone accurately. It's always good to be mindful of how we say things, but I think people who read your blog consistently know how good your heart is. Hugs to you. ~Annie.

Courtney said...

Dina, I think your blog is the best! I have two boys and my baby girl, and I've told my hubby if I had had my girl first I wouldn't have had any more for fear of the boys. They are a handful...but I love them! You have a wonderful personality and I'm grateful for your honesty and sincerity!

Anonymous said...

I too Dina love reading your blog - I'm Allison btw. I have three children and my youngest is about 5 days older than Katie. I actually came to your old house for a bible study once and happened upon your blog one day and was like hey...I have been in that kitchen! I think you are awesome! Keep it up girl- you are an awesome lady and awesome mom!

Tamaramdam said...

I have never commented on your blog before, but feel I need to now. I have enjoyed your blog for a long time now and want to THANK you for it. This is your blog and you have the right to say what you want. I have the right to either read it, or not. That's how it works. You are delightful, positive, honest and obviously a very sensitive, loving person. You do not need to apologize to anyone. I have two boys and I didn't take any offense at all. In fact, I'm one of the women who always says "thank goodness I don't have daughters", yet my best friend has 3 and she's glad she doesn't have boys! That's what makes the world go around. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us on your beautiful blog. And please know you are appreciated.

Tami in Nevada

Twinkle Terrior said...

Hi Dina !! I haven't signed on for a while (we have a sick puppy right now). I know that from reading your posts the past couple years you would never mean to be flippant. It could be a person who hasnt followed you very long and doesnt know how genuine you are! It happens - misunderstandings. You are kind to clear it up for them oxox God bless, CZ

Twinkle Terrior said...

Twinkle Terrior = Christina Zima oxox