7/1/13

Watch Your Toes!


I usually stay as far away from politics and controversy as I possibly can!  
Unfortunately, I care too much what other people of different opinions think. I don't ever want to hurt feelings or offend people. And that is wrong. I'm allowed to have an opinion and stand up for what I believe is right. Right?! 

Sometimes people think that if you disagree with them, it equals hate. It's not hate. I promise. The two people I love most in this world, I disagree with ALL. THE. TIME!

 One of these people thinks that she should have cookies for breakfast, sleep with every toy and stuffed animal in her bed, not take naps, and dump water out of the bath tub. I disagree with all of that, and I still love her madly.
 Another one of these people thinks that brown is the best color, Dr.Pepper is superior to Coke, and camo should be used in decorating. Wrong, Wrong and Wrong. And guess what, I still love him too! 

So I am about to disagree with some of you, but let's still love each other, OK?

 Texas is having a major vote today on abortion. They are trying to make it illegal to have an abortion after 20 weeks. I am so sad to say that I didn't even realize that was legal! 
That is appalling to me. 

This is a baby at 20 weeks:
Week 20


 That's a baby if I've ever seen one! 

A baby at 20 weeks can hear her mommy's voice, have dreams, and feel pain. 
The baby can feel pain. 

I understand that babies can be an inconvenience and you might get stretch marks. When babies are first born, they are completely inconvenient. They suck up your time and money and don't let you sleep! Is it OK to kill them? People get in BIG trouble for that!  
The only difference I see is location. 
 Inside the womb or out. It's still the same person!
People are saying the that the government has no business interfering with a woman's health. I really don't feel like this is a woman's health issue.  I think it's a baby's health issue. The least favorite thing I have heard people say that it's their uterus! If the baby had a voice they might say, "hey, this is my body! This is my life!" Why is your body more important than theirs?

I am all for women having a choice.  
You can choose to not get pregnant.  It is 100% possible to not get pregnant. And there are other ways to mostly avoid it also. There's your choice people! And if you do get pregnant, you can make the brave choice to put your baby up for adoption. You can even drop your baby off at a fire station if you choose not to keep it!
 Yay for Choices! 

I don't want this to be any kind of condemnation for people that have had an abortion. My goal is not to make anyone feel guilty. If that is you, God loves you tremendously! My intent is to just voice that I value people, unborn people too. I feel like aluminum cans get held in higher regard then a human life.  
That makes me so sad.


You are welcome to leave any respectful comments agreeing or disagreeing with me.




21 comments:

Thomas and Jamie said...

Dina - seriously, we need to hook up girl!! I'm in Amarillo and if you ever come up here, I'd love it if you'd look me up! Go girl go!

Bec74 said...

I cannot understand why one would need a abortion after 20 weeks (except for the life of the mother) . If one is considering a abortion , 20 weeks is more then enough time to decide. The baby moves all around by 20 weeks. How can someone end that? I just don't understand. I know a little 3 year old boy... Who was born at 23 weeks4 days. I am pro life, however I still respect a woman's right to choose. Just not after 20 weeks. Absolutely heartbreaking to me.

Jenna @ Sharing My Jennarocity said...

I completely agree with all of your thoughts on abortion. I know it's wrong and it's against what God wants. However, I will say, not everyone's experience is the same when it comes to pregnancy. There are alot of woman who come at it like pregnancy is a blessing and try for months and years to get pregnant and couldn't imagine any mother NOT wanting to have a baby. There are so many women out there who where not educated, not brought up by God fearing parents, who used protection but it happened anyway, women who are married, all types of women, who see a baby as a burden. Not just a baby, but pregnancy. Who are terrified of telling their parents because they come from an abusive household. I say all of this to say the next thing: women can give themselves an abortion. They don't have to go to a clinic to do this. Look up what women in third world countries do to themselves to end a pregnancy and it will make your skin crawl. Or for that matter, what other men do TO them to induce abortion. I feel like we are better treating it as a medical procedure, with oversight and regulations from the government, with clean facilites and knowledgable doctors because if a woman is desperate enough, they are going to do whatever they can, regardless if it's legal or not. In my opinion, legal abortion is not the issue. I believe that God has set up crisis pregnancy centers as a resource for these women, to help them see they are not alone and have help and guidance, and are using these centers to allow even abortion to glorify His name and spread His word to these women who might not hear it. I think as Christians, we need to understand that this issue doesn't have anything to do with the government, it has to do with these women, going through this horrible situation, who need help and we need to find a way to volunteer our time and hear their stories, one and one, and be there for them. I think abortion has become an "issue" and we are all appauled by it, but it's not an issue. It's a situation in one woman's life at a time that we are called to minister to them about. I highly encourage everyone to find a few hours in your week to volunteer at a local pregnancy center - that would do more good than passing a law would ever be, and would bring more glory to God.

Julie said...

Agree 100%!!! Thanks for standing up for what's right. Those innocent babies can't speak for themselves so its up to us to do it for them. God Bless You!!!

Eleanor Epperson said...

"I understand that babies can be an inconvenience and you might get stretch marks."

I find this so offensive. Do you honestly think that stretch marks are the reason abortions occur?

Like you, I was raised in a God-loving, God-praising, God-fearing family, and like you, I could never, NEVER condone abortion. So, logically, I should be among the commenters chanting, "Right on!" but for me, your suggestion that women who choose to abort do so to avoid stretch marks negates the message you were trying to get across.

Eleanor Epperson said...

"I understand that babies can be an inconvenience and you might get stretch marks."

I find this so offensive. Do you honestly think that stretch marks are the reason abortions occur?

Like you, I was raised in a God-loving, God-praising, God-fearing family, and like you, I could never, NEVER condone abortion. So, logically, I should be among the commenters chanting, "Right on!" but for me, your suggestion that women who choose to abort do so to avoid stretch marks negates the message you were trying to get across.

Dina said...

Hey Eleanor!

I appreciate your comment. No, I don't honestly think that's why women get abortions. I guess I shouldn't have been so flippant with my words. I am sorry I offended you. I do, however, believe that there is no good reason to get an abortion.

I hope those words didn't negate my message that I value people. That was my message. And I didn't do it to seek approval from people. So it's OK that you can't say, "right on". I TRY to honor God with all that I do. I fail a lot of the time. I just felt like it would be a dishonor to not mention the vote today and how I felt about it. I know my words weren't perfect. I just didn't want to be silent out of fear of offending people on the other side.

I really didn't want to offend someone with the same opinion either! I guess I would like to ask for some grace.

Thank you!

Dina said...

Thanks Jenna!

I love what you had to say. I can only imagine the fear some girls have when they find out they are pregnant. I definitely sympathize. I don't feel any judgement at all towards them. And I have thought often about volunteering at a crisis pregnancy center. I think that is something I would love to do when Katie's in school.

And I know that people terminating their own pregnancies is so much more dangerous, but I still think abortion should be illegal. Killing is killing and to me it's wrong to offer a "safe" way to do it. That being said, I totally appreciate your comment and respect that we can have different opinions! I love hearing other sides to the story.

Thanks!

Emelia DiCarlo said...

Thank you for your brave post. God Bless all those babies. We need our churches to take a stand and support others that are willing to be right and moral in this upside down world. Bless you and family, a mother of three, sad times and tough times for the family. Enjoy your blog, hugs.

emily said...

Amen, to everything.

I'm Catholic, but even if I weren't, I would still be very much against abortion. Now that I have a 14 month old and experienced the beauty that is pregnancy/child birth/child, I cannot fathom how anyone could chose the abortion route (especially mid-late term).

The gov't already has laws in place that are for the betterment of society. It's illegal to murder someone. Period. It should, especially be illegal to end someone's life who hasn't done anything to warrant it and/or have a say on the matter.


I hope this all makes sense. It's been a looooong day!


Kudos to you for saying what you believe.

Tonya Marie said...

I have to say that personally I'm pro-life. Politically I'm pro-choice. Women do NOT always have the choice to NOT get pregnant. It is also NOT 100% preventable no matter what you do. One of the biggest contributors to abortion is rape. With rape comes PTSD which can cause a woman to avoid recognizing and accepting pregnancy symptoms until much later than the first tri. There are also so many other legitimate reasons a woman might choose abortion. Such as her own life being in danger. What if she has other children at home and carrying this particular child would leave them without a mom? What about unborn children who are diagnosed with a terminal illness that is incompatible with life? There are dozens of reasons beyond a pregnancies 'convenience' that would make a woman choose abortion. While I can honestly say that through my personal relationship with God I wouldn't/couldn't choose abortion. I also don't think it would be fair for me to make that decision for another woman. I don't think it would be fair for a man (politicians) who can never be in that position to make that choice for someone either. Not everyone is lucky enough to have the same relationship with God that I have. Instead of making decisions for people in situations most of us are fortunate enough to never understand we need to spend that same energy being examples of Gods love and compassion. Bringing women and men into a personal relationship with him. So that should they ever have to make that decision they can do so. *I am also sure plenty of women choose abortion for reasons I might think are ridiculous. Those are not the rights I'm defending, but perhaps 'benefit' from it. These women are likely to find a way to that procedure anyway. All we can do is pray for them. Pray for any woman that feel like they need that choice.

BKS said...

Agree agree agree. I love your choices. I don't believe I've ever heard those wonderful choices all packaged together like that. :) I hope and pray that times are changing! And I totally get and appreciate your sense of humor and never find you offensive.

Jenna @ Sharing My Jennarocity said...

What makes me afraid with making it illegal is that it isn't going to stop a woman from doing it - she will go to men like Kermit Gosnell, who would end her pregnancy regardless of the month she is in. I, too, think it's so wrong, but it also terrifies me to think what would happen if people started doing it in back alleys or empty warehouses. I guess what I have seen is that throughout history, abortion has been something that has been a part of society, regardless of if that society accepted it or not. So, I just don't know what making it illegal is going to do to stop it, except make the option more dangerous for women.

jen said...

Dina, I loved this post and thought it was written with genuine kindness and grace. I read your blog all the time and know you are a funny gal and knew what you meant by the stretch mark comment! I thought you tackled a serious topic with a lot of love and kindness and shed light on a really important topic. Love your blog!

Ashley Tremaine said...

Thank you Dina for having the courage to write a post like this...I appreciate your honesty and love for babies! I agree with what you have written!! I can tell you love the Lord with all your heart!!

Brooklynn said...

It breaks my heart to even think about it. I couldn't imagine not having Colbi here with me. There is no right answer except that biblically, it is wrong. Ultimately, God will be the judge. I dont want to have to decide for those who think about abortion, it just makes me so sad. I couldn't do it. Just have to pray for women who experience this and for our leaders who are "deciding" right and wrong for our country.

Brooklynn said...

It breaks my heart to even think about it. I couldn't imagine not having Colbi here with me. There is no right answer except that biblically, it is wrong. Ultimately, God will be the judge. I dont want to have to decide for those who think about abortion, it just makes me so sad. I couldn't do it. Just have to pray for women who experience this and for our leaders who are "deciding" right and wrong for our country.

Sara Beth said...

I agree and I do want to point out that I have heard women (with my own ears) say that they don't want to get fat...so you aren't all the way off the mark with the stretch marks comment. Most of the time this is from a younger mom-to-be but it is the case sometimes.

I appreciate your honesty. I appreciate that you are willing to stand up for these poor babies when even their own parents won't.

Marion said...

Thank you so much for your willingness to step out. I have never commented on your blog but I wanted to let you know I was proud of you. I agree with 100% of what you wrote. I am adopted and born right around when Roe vs Wade went into effect. I truly believe that I would not be here if abortion was available as it is today. I was sicken by the media calling Wendy Davis a super hero :( I live in Austin and I was naive to think that living in Texas we might not have to deal with the liberal lawmakers. One things I have to say is I am super proud of Rick Perry. He walked his talk this week calling for a special session. He will always be labeled as the social conservative governor that was willing to stand up and say killing babies is wrong! Thanks again for your post. I really was hoping to see more Christian mommy bloggers post but frankly you were the only one I read.

Megan said...

Great post and great approach to a hard topic! Kudos to you for standing up for and wording so delicately what you believe in. I agree with everything you said. And I also agree that for no reason, whether it be stretch marks or anything else is a good enough reason to kill an innocent life. There is always, always, always the choice of adoption. ALWAYS.

paige said...

Dina, when you stand up for the word of God you will receive opposition. If you did not, something is wrong. You are an amazing person. Stay the course. Love you!